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As I talked to various friends, or let people know what is going on in my left, I get the same question. Where do you find the time to do all that? I mean with a newborn and all. I never know how to answer that question. A friend of mine said that when you add people to your life you are still left with the same amount of hours in the day that you had when you were single and there is just not of hours for someone else. I laughed but agreed. I wondered, when I find the time to work on my website, write my blog, and post it. Do I get work done at my job? When I get home, how did I figure out how to tend to everyone including myself? My answer is, I really don’t know, it just happened.

My initial blog was about going back to work and after a few days at work I became sad because I realized I only had 4 maybe 5 hours to deal with everyone. It made me sad, frustrated, and I didn’t know how to deal with it. Well, I have moved on from that, but didn’t notice until I am asked when do I find the time. The first thing I decided was I’m not going to be upset about it. I needed to find a way to organize; I needed to find others who have gone through this to give me ideas. Needless to say I found no one, and it’s not that I’m the only one going through this but no one was willing to share that they were frustrated, upset, and probably nearly lost their mind. Who would want to share such a weakness? Well I’ll be the first to let you know. I cried and worried about how horrible I am because I went to bed without giving someone some attention and usually that someone was media decided that I’m no longer going to cry, worry, or be depressed about it. This is just the life that I have been given and if someone (else) doesn’t get the attention they need, then whatever. My sanity is more important. I hate being sad. Being sad, down, and/or depressed is the worst feeling for me. I will force myself to fix the situation so I can be happy again. So here is my fix:

4 Ways to Find the Time and Get More Hours in Your Day

  • Get Organized – Ladies we cannot remember it all and with all these gadgets we don’t have to. I have an Instinct with all these great features, so why not use it. I started to use the calendar and the notes on my phone. I set reminders so I don’t have remembered anything, one less item for me to think about. I then started to use my Google calendar to my Gmail account and had daily agenda’s sent to my phone. Great reminder.
  • Set specific times – I do not bring work home with media simply refuse to do that. My family is so funny and loving that I want to enjoy that. Sometimes I want someone else to entertain me or I don’t want to miss anything. I refuse to do work or blogging after 5:30 pm and on weekends. That is my time that I spend with my family. I also try (haven’t mastered it yet) set aside an hour for myself. Me time is the same as shower time.
  • Make list – Before I leave work I make a list of what needs to be done for tomorrow. Since I use my phone to keep track of appointments and blogging activities I then incorporate that into the down time at the office.
  • Know that it is okay – Finally, I don’t beat myself up if I miss something, don’t do something, or forget something. Life happens and if you are upset that’s fine but no wrinkles for me please.

These tips may not work for you, but this is what works for me and with enlisting other members of the family to help me with household chores, things that are needed to get done are done. It’s all about trial and error. If one technique doesn’t work it doesn’t mean you will never have enough hours, it simply means try something else. Unfortunately we cannot add more hours as we add people to our lives. If we could I would probably have 40 hour days, but we would probably still complain about not having enough time. It’s about time management. Learn to manage your time and don’t let any time go by unmanaged.

How Flexible Are You?

Are You Flexible Enough?

A few weeks ago I wrote a post about my child and his annoying growth, I’m happy to say that it has touched quite a bit of people. Not only have I received comments on the actual post itself but people commented on Facebook as well. Well today I want to talk about a different idea that was touched on in that post. A while ago I was able to figure out a way to find my harmony between my job, my household, and running my business (you can find out the first thing I did by reading last week’s posts). However, finding that peace and harmony allowed me to be happier, more efficient and better for my clients. These feelings ended up creating a surge in my business and I found myself taking on more and more clients, but my job and household began to slack. I once again was struggling to find the happy medium between work and life. And because I know longer had that harmony, it spilled out into other areas. My area of focus didn’t seem affected as much (my business) because it was growing and I needed to meet the demands, but in order to meet those demands I started to slack off at the job (a huge no, no) and my family specifically my little one was not getting the time and attention he was used to getting. So to get that time and attention he become annoying and did whatever he could do to get my attention. Prior to writing that post I became down and sad because here I was sharing with you all what I have done to create this harmonious life for myself but I no longer had it. I couldn’t figure out what was going and when and where did I lose it. How can things be alright one minute and then totally off the next? It made no sense to me and I found myself once again chasing my tail trying to find my happy life.  Then in a conversation with my best friend, that’s when it hit me. It wasn’t that I lost anything; the problem was I now needed to readjust the same tools to fit my current situation. Are You Flexible Enough? To many times we get caught up in doing things a certain way. But the truth is there are many ways to achieve that one goal. You simply have to find the way that works for you at that given time. Prior to the increase of business I created a way of life that worked for me. I knew what I was doing at any given point. There were times when unexpected tasks, or events happened but it didn’t throw me off course too much. However, recently I found myself starting to bring work home in order to get things done (not what I want to do), working after my work hours, and putting my work ahead of my family time. You know how that goes, squeezing in a text while at the dinner table or something. I also found myself to be very tired, and starting to get overwhelmed. And in the midst of all of this I needed to figure out a way to get back to my happy days. So I did. I realized that as much as I crave flexibility, I myself must also be flexible. I can’t be too rigid that my tools do not help. Did you write that last sentence down?  Too many times we say a tool, or an advice did not work, but the real problem is you were too rigid and stuck in you were of living to allow it to work, and in the midst of it all I realized that I wasn’t being flexible. I didn’t allow room for growth and unconsciously wanted everything to stay the same, which I must confess I did. I wanted to keep living my “well-balanced” life, who doesn’t. But what I wasn’t prepared for was having to reassess my situation so I can consistently live the life I want to live. Action Steps: If you are finding that you once had the “balance” you were looking for and things somehow change asses your current situation. What has been added to your life now that you didn’t have before? For me, clients were added. I had them before, but I was getting more. Secondly, figure out what needs to be put in place in order for you to achieve that happiness, or what things can you change around. If one way didn’t work don’t be afraid to switch it up until you find a way that works for you. For my situation I needed to start looking for a team. I needed to be realistic with myself and know that there is no way I can do it all and I must solicit the help of others if I eventually want to become full-time in my business. Once you have located the reason for the change, figured out a way to make the tools work for you (through trial and error). You can now relax and enjoy until the next wave hits. The only thing in life that is consistent is change. Are you flexible enough to make changes as you achieve your dreams?

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Do You Have a Routine???

My original post for today was going to be about how to create the perfect routine for yourself.  However, I thought it would be wise to first find out if you have a routine (whether it’s a night time routine or what), why as a Working Housewife you should have a routine and show you this working moms schedule.  So here goes!!!

On my never ending quest to find ways to manage the madness of being a mom, wife, entrepreneur and having a full-time job I’m always looking for ways to help me get more time out of my day, or to simple make things easier for me, whether it’s at work, in my business, or at home.  And at one point I need more time in the mornings. My mornings always seem to be hectic.  I mean it’s probably not as hectic as yours or the other moms that I talk to, but it’s enough hectic where I can easily forget my keys, my kid, or something else valuable I may need for that day.  My mornings are filled with me always looking for an outfit to where, an outfit for my son, making breakfast (if I have enough time after trying to do my hair) doing my hair, showers, and the constant running around looking for little things that I need at the last minute so I can hurry up and get out of the house.

One would think a solution to this madness would be to simply get up earlier.  But I found two problems with this solution.  (1) I don’t want to get up earlier because I completely enjoy my sleep when I do get it.  It honestly feels like I’m just falling to sleep when my alarm goes off.  (2) Getting up earlier is really just giving me more time to be hectic in the morning.  So instead of me moving all fast and rushing, I’m still unorganized (keyword to your hecticness) and frantic but I’m just doing it at a slower rate.  Well after trying various things and refusing to try other tactics (because it was what my mom did), I finally figured out a solution that works every single time I do it.  Regardless of the time I wake up (1 hour before I leave, 30 minutes before I have to leave) I never feel frantic and my time is used properly.

You see, the last sentence of the last paragraph is another key.  You must learned to use your time properly and wisely.  It is not wise to use my time being frantic.  It is not wise to spend my time walking (or running) back and forth from room to room looking for what is already in my purse. But it is smart to define how that time needs to be spent and use it just for that.  And that is what I did.  At this current moment (cause my life is always changing ) My mornings are spent getting myself ready for work.  Previously my mornings was spent getting myself ready as well as my 3 year old and getting him over to my mother in law, and I must say that my routine worked perfectly during this time.  Now in the mornings I just need to focus on myself and no one else (lies because my child still wakes up and wants to brush his teeth with me and just about anything else).  So even though I have less work to do, I still found myself a bit frantic, in the mornings (crazy, huh?).  But when I do implement this routine it works just as good as if I had tons of things to do in the morning.

Okay I’m sure you had enough so I’ll go ahead and tell you my night time routine.  It’s a routine that I would see my mom do and I never implemented it becuase, I don’t know, who wants to be their mom.  It’s also something a friend of mine recommended, but I still didn’t do it because once again who wants to know that their parents was right all the freaking time.  Okay here goes.  I’ll give you a brief outline of my day.

  • 5:15am – 7:30 am – I play with my alarm
  • 7:30 am – 8: am – I get ready for work
  • 8:00 am – 9:00 am – commute to work
  • 9:00 am – 4:40 am – I’m in the office
  • 4:40pm – 6:30pm – commute home from work (pick up my son from school then go home)
  • 6:30 pm – 7:30 pm- cook and eat dinner
  • 7:30 pm- 8:15ish pm – free time (spend time with my children)
  • 8:15ish pm – 9ish pm – get little man ready for bed (include bath time, book reading)
  • 9:30pm – work on last minute items for clients (if meeting a deadline)
  • 10:00 pm- 10:30pm- lay out clothes for tomorrow (including undergarments), make sure my gym bag is packed, make sure purse is on the couch by the door with my coat.
  • 10:30 – go to bed (yeah right, hubby gets home late so my worrying self stays up until he gets home, so so sad)
So anyway that’s my daily routine.  As you can see when I get home from work I literally do the same exact things.  Things my alter a bit because I have my spinning class, or my husband has a day off so I don’t have to cook or pick up little man from school.  But as far as getting my stuff ready for the morning, that happens every single night (okay just about every night).  Doing that allows me to be organized in the morning and everything that is needed to get ready for work is exactly where I need it.  This routine has cut down the time it takes for me to get ready from 1 hour to as little as 30 minutes at times.  And as mentioned in previous paragraphs this routine can be used regardless of how much things you have going on in the morning.
Share with me below some of your routines? Where are the areas in your day where you can be more efficient with your time?

Meet Felicia

Felicia Pratt is the Owner of The Working Housewife, Mom of 2 Boys, Wife, and has a Full-time Job

She’s also an Author, wordpress enthusiast, Social Media fanatic, and a Runner to help her stay fit and in shape.

As you can see I wear many many hats just like you, and I must say I completely enjoy it. Through the years of managing my household, career, and entrepreneurial journey I have managed to find a way to make it all work without feeling guilty.  When I first became a mom I was a stressed, tired, and frantic working mom wondering when I will get a day of rest and praying that I will not pass out at the dinner table.  But now I am a happy working mom living my life and loving it.  The best part is empowering you to do the same.

In The Beginning

I first started blogging in 2009 when I came back to work from maternity leave. At that time it was the hardest thing for me to leave my child at home (although he was with his father).  I cried almost every day and literally watched the time go by so that I can bust out of the office and get home to my little man.  I never got enough sleep, didn’t eat right, and worst of all getting back to my pregnancy weight and I was not even pregnant.  I didn’t fit my clothes, I didn’t feel good about myself, my life and thought that my life would be so much better as a stay at home mom or work at home mom. So blogging started to decrease and my quest to entrepreneurhood increased.

The Entrepreneurship Journey

My first thought was to become a life coach for other moms.  Even though I wasn’t fully satisfied with my life I learned a few things that kept me calm and keeping my life in order.  I thought it would be a great idea to help other moms do this as well. My goal was to attend Coach Training Alliance and become a certified coach.  Well on this path I realized I needed money to pay for the classes, so I got the bright idea of becoming a virtual assistant.  I figured the administrative and meeting planning skills I have acquired will help me tremendously in this area.  As I started to grow I was requested more and more to build or customize wordpress websites.  I learned how to do this as I worked on my own website, and I was able to build a few websites for friends and family.  I began to think that this must be what I should do and since I understand the world of Internet Marketing I can market myself as an Online Business Manager to women running an online business.  Yup I was doing all of this while working a full-time job, nurturing my marriage, and keeping my household in some kind of order.

Well then the love of Social Media bug bit me.  I could stay on Facebook and twitter all day long.  I love to see people interact, watch what people were saying and how social media can increase your business.  I totally understood that social media is about building relationships with your customers so you know what they want, and you know why your products or services are not working.  The way business can become global practically overnight was mind boggling and I loved it.  So I decided to add Social Media Management to my list of duties.  At this point I was now a blog content manager, social media manager, and I developed websites. But something was still missing.  Even though it seemed like I was doing so much, being successful and even gearing my business towards women entrepreneurs, I still felt empty and unfulfilled and needed to spend some time reflecting on what I truly wanted my life to look like.

Back to the Basics

What I was missing was blogging and empowering my fellow working moms to stay the course.  In the midst of growing my business, working a full-time job, raising my boys and staying madly in love with my husband I grew to love me.  I started to put myself first and I ended up achieving some personal goals of my own.  I became a contributing author of the high anticipated book “The GlamourLESS Side of Entrepreneurship- What they didn’t tell you about being a woman in business”, I ran my very first 5k (actually looking to run another pretty soon), lost weight, and most importantly fell in love with me again.  I read the comments and posts of women sharing with me how inspired they are by all that I do, or asking how do I find the time to do it all, or even calling me Superwomen (Yes, I do have an “S” on my chest and I wear it proudly).  And all of this reminded me of what I love to do the most and that’s empowering and inspire busy working moms so they can live their lives without the guilt. And because of this and with everything I have learned on my journey I have decided to go back to blogging.  Blogging did more for me than I could share in this about page and it truly should be the basis for your business as well.

I still develop websites, manage people’s content and their social media and if you like more information on those services you can find that under the Work with Felicia tab above, but to truly live the life I was meant to live I must continue to share tools, tips, and practical strategies for the busy working mom trying to live the life they were meant to live.

Yes I believe we can have it all. And do it all without the guilt!!

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A lot of woman are holding down jobs and careers outside of their household.  Whether it’s by choice or by force women are now pulling their weight when it comes to the financial journey of making a house a home.  However, those that are able to stay home and be a full-time housewife are doing that as well.  It seems in today’s world we must make a choice.  Either your this or that.  There is no straddling the fence and you certainly cannot have your cake and eat it to.  And when it comes to family and working the same ideas are displayed.  We all have our opinions about what way is the right way and why your way is wrong.  But to be honest there is no right or wrong way there is only the way that works for you. So choose to straddle the fence and be called a Working Housewife.  In the rest of this post I will do my best to give you a definition the term working housewife as it relates to me and my blog.

I struggled so much trying to figure out where I fit into the world of motherhood, wife, career, that I simply just stopped thinking.  I didn’t want to sacrifice my life for my family but I didn’t want to my family to feel as if I was never there for them in their time of needs.  And as I looked around I realized that long gone are the days where women are solely housewives.  Women are managing their household, while successfully maintaining there jobs, careers, and business.  We are able to do it all and do it all successfully.  By successfully I mean they are completely happy, comfortable, and fully engaged in all aspects of their life and that’s how I define A Working Housewife.

It’s not about the work you do outside of your home versus the chores and duties in the house, but more about accomplishing it all not at the expense of your own fulfillment.  In fact I find myself more fulfilled now that I have been able to really focus on what I enjoy rather than how busy I am.   A typical day for me is working 9-5 and my full-time job, managing my business, managing my clients needs, then coming home and managing the needs of my household.  This includes, but not limited to, cooking dinner, cleaning, laundry, entertaining, going to games, being a life coach, or simply just being present (my favorite part).

If I had to define what a working housewife is I would say it’s me and it’s you.  It’s a woman that really enjoys and value making her house feel like a home and really enjoys working outside of the realm of household duties.  Working means you run a business, you have a job, you telecommute, whatever it is.  The key is you do this all not at the expense of yourself but for yourself.  You understand the various dimensions of you and are able to nurture and love each dimension without judgment and criticism from you or the world around you.

Are you a working housewife?  Have you been able to find peace in this realm?  Are you a working housewife by choice or by force (meaning if you were given the choice of not having to work you would not work)? Share you thoughts below!

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Managing the Morning and Evening Routines

At the end of last year I wrote a post asking do you have a routine.  As a working mom it is very important that you set up routines for yourself and your household.  Routines allow you to know what’s going on at that particular moment so that you will not forget anything.  Routines prepare you for the next day and help you move faster and more coherently than flying around looking for this and that item.

At one point my morning routine consisted of me waking up (late, cause I’m always trying to get more sleep).  Rushing to take a shower, trying to figure out what I’m going to where, make breakfast (ha!! yeah right), making sure my husband is up so he can take the little one to school.  Lastly, I’m racing out the house to catch the bus so that I can make it to work on time.  Does any of this sound remotely familiar? I even bet the rest of your day you are unfocused, handling a million task at once trying to get it all done so you can get off from work to race home to pick up your children from daycare, come up with something to eat (preferably something that takes 30 minutes or less), watch your favorite shows, help kids with homework, go to bed so you can lay there thinking about all that you did not accomplish for the day (and tomorrow).  To be honest this is a waste of time and there is a better way to manage your morning and evening routine.

3 Steps to Manage Your Routines Better

  1. The first step is to think about what are the things you do every single morning and every single evening.  For example, in my wild routine every morning I wake up late (keep hitting that snooze button) so I now have to rush to get ready so that I can catch my bus.  I never know what I’m going to where, so that put me behind as well.  These things will never change.
  2. The second step is to figure out what will help make those steps easier.  If I knew what I was wearing to work that morning that would decrease the time it takes for me to get ready in the morning significantly.  I can spend about 10 – 20 minutes trying to figure out what I’m going to where.  But if I already know, then it only takes 10 minutes to put the clothes on.
  3. The third step is to take action. What I started to do was think about my outfit for tomorrow the night before. Actually this starts at the beginning of the week. On Sunday I get a vague idea of what I will where for the week so that I can think about my outfit the night before.

These are 3 simple steps to help you manage your evening and morning routines better.  But keep in mind one thing, Flexibility.  It’s important that you don’t get too attached to your routine that if change happens to occur it ruins your entire routine.  A perfect example of this is instead of my husband taking my little one to school, I must do it because his schedule has changed.  So I have to adjust my routine to allow for the time to get my little one ready as well so we both aren’t running around crazy.

Having a more relaxed routine can help you tremendously.  The major reward is seeing how much time you can actually skim off of your morning and evening so you can do more with family, friends, and yourself.

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It’s Been 5 Years!

At the end of last month my husband and I celebrated our 5 year anniversary.  We could not believe it’s been 5 years already.  We vividly remember our wedding day and all that it took to get there.  It was an amazing time (as you can see from the above photo). But we also looked at where we currently are in our lives and to be honest we are not where we thought we would be.  We thought we would have accomplished more or living a totally different life. But even with all of that one thing we are so ecstatic about is that we are still truly and deeply in love with each other.

I was chatting with one of the security guards in our building and he could not believe I was married, or married for 5 years.  He said I looked way to young (***blushing***) to be married for that long.  The next thing he said was you should right a book.  I laughed at the thought of me giving marriage tips to anyone, but he was series.  He believed that anyone who has been married for 5 years or more and they are happily married need to right some sort of book to share with others so that the younger generation can know what to do.  I thought about it and I said maybe he’s right. Maybe not about me writing a book, but letting the younger generation know what is needed to keep a happily successful marriage.  It seems that more and more couples are getting divorced and more and more people are opting not to get married (believe it or not, I never wanted to be married. Never say never).  So to do my part in helping others that want to be married know how to be happily married I’d like to share this one tip that is probably the biggest of all the tips that I could share. Here goes!!

Keep God in the midst of your marriage.

Yup that’s it! I think this is the most important thing any couple must do in order to stay happily married.  My husband and I have been through quite a bit in these first 5 years of our marriage, but through it all we both always had God to fall on.  Even when we didn’t want to speak to each other we spoke to God and you know God has a nice way of putting you in your place.  Without God some of the decisions I have made I don’t think I would have ever made.  I would have opted for the other way and maybe even be separated or divorced by now, and I’m pretty sure my husband can say the same thing.  Having God in your marriage gives you patience.  You become patient enough to deal with what you would quickly dismiss if it wasn’t for God.  Having God in your marriage opens your ears to hear what is needed to hear as the two you communicate your anger, or disappointments to each other.  Without God you will not hear what your spouse has to say but only wait to interject your needs.  Having God gives you a new mind that reshapes how you treat your spouse.

Regardless of what goes on in your marriage making sure that God is there with you will allow you to always see why you married this person.

Share with me what has kept you and your spouse happily married.  Or ask questions.  I’d love to hear from you.

TWH Confessions Got Questions?

 

From time to time we all have had questions or concerns when it comes to our life as a mom, wife, and working woman.  It can be extremely hard trying to figure out how to live your life while managing these other aspects.  Sometimes is can be downright discouraging.

Being a working mom can be really tough.  Not only do we have to worry about our career and business, wondering if we are taking the right steps forward but we also have to keep some sort of focus on our personal life so we can achieve our personal goals and dreams.  Why does it have to be separate?

So here is where I want to help you!

I want to know your biggest frustration, question, or concern regarding work-life balance, and business (blogging, social media, etc) .  I’d love to hear from you and really serve you by answering your individual needs.

Please don’t be shy.

When responding to your question you will remain anonymous. Who knows your question may even be featured here on this blog to help many other working moms just like you.

I look forward to hearing form you! Complete the form below.

Being An Entrepreneur is NOT As Glamorous As You Think It Is!

Felicia Pratt co-authored the highly anticipated book The GlamourLESS Side of Entrepreneurship – What they DIDN’T Tell You About Being A Woman in Business.
 

 

Knowledge is power and this book offers a clear and concise knowledge of what it is really like to be an entrepreneur – the untold truth. Each contributing author shares their “behind the scenes” story of what they have experienced as a woman entrepreneur including the unexpected challenges that no one ever told them about. Some of the women have been in business for 4 years, 8 years, 10 years, and longer.

 

This book promises to empower and equip women to succeed in small business versus walking into this journey blindfolded and on the verge of failure. This book will inspire beginner and seasoned entrepreneurs as well as those contemplating Entrepreneurship. Learn all about the untold and uncut experiences of real women in business and why, despite the “GlamourLess Side of Entrepreneurship,” they persist in this journey.

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For Working Moms Only

 

 Life Management Tips For The Busy Working Mom- Learn How You Can Live Your Life Without the Guilt!  

“There was never any question with me as to which I would choose, my boy or my work. I had to have both. ” Rheta childe Dorr

 

Dear Busy Working Mom,

 

I have seen so many working mom blogs and magazine that will give you tips that will help you achieve work life balance.  And to be honest I find that most of these tips, strategies and solutions are the same exact tips over and over again.

As a recovering supermom and one who has attempted to do it all herself daily I must share with you this one truth.

All the tips in the world will not help you if you do not change your thoughts about your life as a working mom

I know, totally unconventional.

But I cannot read one more comment of women wanting REAL solutions on how to help them achieve work life balance

I want you to enjoy a LIFE without the guilt! Where you can freely live and achieve your personal goals without having to chose between your children, husband, and yourself or use them as the reason why you cannot live your life.

In this FREE audio I am going to share with you one tip that helped a mom who has a 9 – 5, was tired and stressed out daily start to spend quality time with her husband and kids, start a business, co-author a book, train and run her fist 5k.

This one tip started it all for her and will do the same for you if you implement it as well.