It’s Been 5 Years!
At the end of last month my husband and I celebrated our 5 year anniversary. We could not believe it’s been 5 years already. We vividly remember our wedding day and all that it took to get there. It was an amazing time (as you can see from the above photo). But we also looked at where we currently are in our lives and to be honest we are not where we thought we would be. We thought we would have accomplished more or living a totally different life. But even with all of that one thing we are so ecstatic about is that we are still truly and deeply in love with each other.
I was chatting with one of the security guards in our building and he could not believe I was married, or married for 5 years. He said I looked way to young (***blushing***) to be married for that long. The next thing he said was you should right a book. I laughed at the thought of me giving marriage tips to anyone, but he was series. He believed that anyone who has been married for 5 years or more and they are happily married need to right some sort of book to share with others so that the younger generation can know what to do. I thought about it and I said maybe he’s right. Maybe not about me writing a book, but letting the younger generation know what is needed to keep a happily successful marriage. It seems that more and more couples are getting divorced and more and more people are opting not to get married (believe it or not, I never wanted to be married. Never say never). So to do my part in helping others that want to be married know how to be happily married I’d like to share this one tip that is probably the biggest of all the tips that I could share. Here goes!!
Keep God in the midst of your marriage.
Yup that’s it! I think this is the most important thing any couple must do in order to stay happily married. My husband and I have been through quite a bit in these first 5 years of our marriage, but through it all we both always had God to fall on. Even when we didn’t want to speak to each other we spoke to God and you know God has a nice way of putting you in your place. Without God some of the decisions I have made I don’t think I would have ever made. I would have opted for the other way and maybe even be separated or divorced by now, and I’m pretty sure my husband can say the same thing. Having God in your marriage gives you patience. You become patient enough to deal with what you would quickly dismiss if it wasn’t for God. Having God in your marriage opens your ears to hear what is needed to hear as the two you communicate your anger, or disappointments to each other. Without God you will not hear what your spouse has to say but only wait to interject your needs. Having God gives you a new mind that reshapes how you treat your spouse.
Regardless of what goes on in your marriage making sure that God is there with you will allow you to always see why you married this person.
Share with me what has kept you and your spouse happily married. Or ask questions. I’d love to hear from you.